Friday, February 1, 2013

The real house wife?


The word "housewife" was almost extinct in the early 70's, but thanks to a popular series on the Bravo television network, the word is in full circulation all over the world. This phenomenon is so popular that when my sister in-law, who leaves in Paris, France and is a non-English speaker became so hooked to the show, as she was on vacation last year, still calls me to discuss the   show. The reality is most these women are not real housewives or even married and their portrayal of reality is not far from reality itself, with that being said, I am in the accordance with the show that a housewife is not literally a house wife.

Four years ago, I held a high paying position at a cooperate housing firm, that catered to the Government. I resided in Crystal City with my husband in a high-rise that had all the amenities anyone will desire. I worked long days but I made it home in time to care for my eldest son who had acquired an illness, which I like to refer to the unexplained. I persevered for a year and a half but, with my son's health declining and another baby on the way, I gave in to the very thing I never wanted to become...a "housewife".

           In   the 1900s, prior to industrial development, men and women took care of the home because there was no real separation between home and work. In present times the definition of a housewife is dependent on ones culture and personal preference. I personally believe that taking care of the home requires a lot more effort than going to work, yet after being the primary care taker of my children for the past four years, the reward is priceless. Statistics show that women are attaining higher education than men.

Many decisions that we make in life come with some degree of regret, nostalgia and doubt. I battle with my decision to stay at home, though, I am aware of the fact that it is of the interest of my child. The irony is that I day dream of what could have been and I pray that my daughters get to live their lives without much regret. I get solace in the fact that not I was able to learn, peruse a career, raise a family and made sure not to lose myself completely in the process.

Happiness can only be achieved when you discover the good in every person and situation.

 work cited:http://www.census.gov/hhes/socdemo/education/data/cps/historical/index.html,
The Unfished Revolution by Kathleen Gerson

 

2 comments:

  1. The industrial revolution did happen in the 19th century (the 1800s), so I think you meant the 1800s in your text here? And can you provide specific examples of the nonseparation of home/work? Show readers exactly what you mean so that they won't be wondering. An example is the perfect way to do that.

    Also, when you make a point (about the value of staying home with children), make sure that is the focus of the paragraph. In one paragraph here, you jump to women getting more education than men. Why is that there in that particular paragraph? Consider a transition to a new one and highlight the discrepancy, which I think is what you're leading to...if women are getting more eduational opportunities, then why are women still staying home more than men?

    Work on creating an MLA-style works cited, and mention Gerson right in the text where you use here data.

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  2. I agree the term housewife is just that a term. It is just a cultural thing. Some women are out of the house working and some men are even at home taking care of the kids. I think more women are going to school and receiving higher educations because they can now. It is socially acceptable for a woman to have a career now; it is acceptable for a woman to not stay home now. Although some people do still believe in the thought that a woman’s job is in the house but really it is not. I also agree with you about housework being harder than going to work sometimes. Especially when you are watching the kids.

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